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I Can Do This!

 Tonight was one of those nights when I needed a pep talk.  I needed to remember that both Snowflake and I are human and we will both screw up and she is just 6 years old.  We are both allowed to have bad days.

Unfortunately this was not just a bad day.  It was a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day! Alexander has nothing on Snowflake! Luckily all bad days end and we have the promise of a new day and a new chance at an awesome, wonderful, very good day.

One horrible day is not a sign of who we are, we just can't stay stuck in a cycle of days like today.  They happen.  So do great days.  Parenting (I am learning) is about helping a little person grow into a big person knowing how to handle all types of days.  It is about modeling seeking forgiveness and forgiving. It is about patience, mercy and grace.

None of us are going to perfectly parent every day. Days like today in our house can be learning points for both of us.  No kid is perfect.  We are all just imperfect people. I am thankful for my Savior who loves us in our imperfection and is helping me to learn, grow and do better.

I love my girl.  We will get through the rough days together thankful our Abba is with us each step of the way!

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